name their pain

you know the type, the sort of person, who comes to you, wanting you to take on their worries and troubles, wants to make you feel bad because they do, wants to insult you, treat you badly, wants you to get angry, upset, don't let them turn you, don't let them get you to pass it on, turn the other cheek, name their pain, make it obvious that you are happy, don't ever let them win, name their pain, they will move on to someone else, but you won't join them, or beat them, just naming what they are doing means they will have to feel whatever it is they would like you