Something Good

Ok some good things...

if you have a headache or even if you don't try this:-

place your index fingers into the space, place behind your ear lobes, with your finger prints against your skin, let them settle there naturally and then start pushing in and up, mostly in as though you were pushing towards the front of your head, and in and up and find that as you do it may become a little sore, there may be a little discomfort but as you keep going, and you can't do yourself any harm (and you can always give them a wiggle while they're there if you like) you will find you can't even hear the world outside going on around you and when you feel ready, slowly let your fingers come back down and out and then feel how clear your whole head feels.

If you feel like giving someone a massage but you're not very good at it, why not let your fingers just settle and rest wherever they naturally feel like doing so, usually you want to start at or near the shoulders, fingers spread out, thumbs in the middle, then push in slowly, letting the other person push back against you too if they so wish, which also means they can control how hard you are pushing in, and also how much they wish to allow this to deeply work.  As you push in slowly, they may feel a little discomfort, which is why it's nice to let them push back.  Then slowly let your fingers come away, and feel as the tissues around the area plump up around your finger tips, almost as though you were pressing on pressure valves that are now releasing so much tension.  Then move your fingers and thumbs lower down the back and continue as far down as you need to, or as they wish you to.

If you want to know how to massage others, work on yourself, any aches and pains just get stuck in, let your fingers work into any area that feels tight or tense, explore, don't worry you know what feels good and what doesn't and you can find out, safely on yourself first before you experiment on others.

sliding motions are good, one thing though don't use your thumb tip, use the knuckle of the thumb, otherwise you may be asking for a problem with your thumbs later on, working in circles at first is good, then slide up or down, let's say it's your arm or leg, small circles at first and then maybe bigger ones as you start to work on the whole area.  It's your body and you can reach most places.

A great technique for massaging your own feet is to lay on your front, bending your knees and reaching back so that both hands can work on a foot at the same time, really works wonders for removing the aches and pains of a hard day of being on your feet, the more you learn about what feels good for you, the easier it will be to be able to work on others too, but be gentle, ask do they prefer light or firm pressure?  Always start gently and as you feel it is necessary work any knots out.

Massage is a joy to receive but I have found it to be even more joyful to give, to give others relief from aches and pains, to reach the areas they can't, to show others how easy it is when they try.

Love
Jon
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