Learning Curves

I didn't realise that it was natural to have friends you can rely on, you can ask a favour of, all the good stuff really.  It's all been quite eye opening for me, the last few years.  I'm still not entirely finished working out where I went wrong, I think a lot of it was fear.  Rather than make a prat of myself, because I didn't know what I was doing, or go ahead and get used to rejection, I just sat things out, avoided confrontations, sidestepped opportunities for growth and in many ways kept myself well hidden when it came to getting out and about.  I just found things to do that didn't involve lots of social situations, chances to get on in life.

I'm finding out that it is actually quite normal to both want and get sex, when what I've done is been an incurable romantic.  I suppose if things had worked out differently, if I'd gone on to try out a few different people after my first long term relationship faltered, rather than falling for friends and then not doing anything about it, my learning curve would have been a lot shorter.  Putting up barriers around your heart to prevent yourself from getting hurt, isn't a good idea, but neither is wandering round with it out on display for anyone to come along and steal away...

It's been wonderful to spend so much time with amazing people, some really wonderful women and some pretty amazing men too.  My views on women have changed a lot, they're much dirtier when you get to know them.  They're worse than men in many respects, and I thought men were crude beyond belief ;)

Women can do anything a man can do and loads of others too, confirming my long held theory that women are better than men, and as I said before, worse too.  Their range is wider, if 'All the worlds a stage' then women make by far the best players in the game of life.  More devious, but kinder.  More aggresive, but more forgiving.  That's why a world in which women are true equals will be ultimately a far fairer place.

They'll have the edge as they always had before male dominance took over, when we were merely animals, as much as the Stags show off and rut to choose who gets to mate with the females, it has been shown time and time again, that the dominant male has very little real power in the group.  When the decisions that affect the entire herd are made, it's the consensus that wins out, the group makes the choices on direction and the alpha male follows.  For one thing, he's not that bright, he has to be strong and have stamina, yes.

In our society, the human animals have been ruled by one man at the head of a family group, at the head of a larger population.  Kings said that it was their god given right to make the rules up as they went along.  If the next monarch was a madman then so be it, there was no other option but for us all to follow their lead.

With the advent of time, men and kings in particular have lost their right to be the sole person in charge, nations brought together into unions under violent despots and warlords are now breaking apart and this trend will continue.  It is likely that without anyone being capable of commanding the respect of entire landmasses or getting away with using force to do so, that all of the countries of the world will gradually turn back into smaller and smaller groups, not massive nation states.

You only have to look at the way gradually and accelerating in some areas, the peoples who were divided in the distant past by the differences between them, either religious, ethnic or just plain geographical reasons are deciding their own fates more and more, whether that has been through civil war or the democratisation of their political process.  Bringing democracy to places like Afghanistan actually makes that country worse in the short term, because the tribal history of the land has always been very feudal.  They had a way of coping with their differences, it's just that we have insisted on picking a fight with a religion in that region.  Not Muslims not Islam, but the religion of hate that exists in consequence to our actions of hate and misuse of military power, that's what we are fighting, we are creating situations for us to go and resolve.

The majority of people however, do not want war.  There is a struggle going on between those people who still believe in a god and those who pretend they do but actually have very little faith left.  The actual fight these days is between different groups based on a need to get resources from someone else to keep your own unsustainable lifestyle going at least in the short term.  Try to sell that to a population of overweight, unhealthy adults, who would rather kill each other than face the fact that they are no longer a respected power in the world, if they ever were, without using force.  I talk of course of America.  They are hanging on by a thread, and that thread is debt, China owns the States, The Middle East less so, Europe even less.

So when will we resolve this awful timebomb?  Ultimately the people of the world will need to unite.

Not on lines of faith, or creed, but with a shared purpose.  Do we want to evolve not just survive?

Sure we do, most of us do.  Most of us are not extremists, most of us are not radicals.

Most of us are moderate.  Most of us do not want violence to proliferate.

So when will the majority actually rule?
When we stand up and be counted.

What will it take?
Revolution.
Peace.
Love
Jon
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